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When the person you are giving your feedback to gets defensive it is hard to actually work on the issue at hand. This often leads to conflict instead of resolution.
While you are not responsible for other people’s reactions, the way you communicate can influence the course of the conversation.
If you feel your abilities, competence or overall persona is being attacked, you get defensive.
You impulsively react to the perceived threat of criticism by either counter-attacking (being sarcastic, being critical in return, engaging in conflict) or fleeing (stonewalling, giving the silent treatment).
When you take things personally your fight or flight response is triggered. You might feel obliged to defend yourself or you might close up and withdraw, feeling inadequate and ashamed.
Either way, it is not a nice place to be.