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How To Stop Feeling Guilty About Self-Care?

Have you caught yourself feeling guilty and ashamed for taking some time for yourself? Is your “me time” filled with stress and anxiety? You are not alone. And here’s a…

Why do you find it hard to apologize?

To apologize is to take ownership of something you did, to acknowledge and validate the other person’s feelings, to offer to make amends. To apologize is to show you care…

Being stuck in fight or flight – how to manage acute stress response

Do you feel agitated all the time? Do you happen to “lose it” over the smallest thing? Does it feel like you have to constantly defend yourself and your choices?…

How do emotions affect decision making?

Decision making is the process of making a choice. We usually think of decision making as a careful reflection and deliberation about the possible outcome. Making a decision would require…

Emotional Awareness For Beginners

Modern researchers identify emotions as a pattern of reactions whose purpose is to adapt and react to a situation quickly and with minimal cognitive intervention. Emotions are our guidance system.…

What does “being present” mean and how it can improve your life

What does being present mean? How can I not be present? There is only one time that is important – NOW! It is the most important time because it is…

How To Break The Habit Of Negative Self-talk

Words have power, the words we say to ourselves even more so. The way we communicate with ourselves shapes the way we see and experience the world. There is an…

Understanding Emotions And Their Role In Your Life

When we think of emotions we rarely think of the actual purpose emotions serve us. What are emotions and why do we experience them? Emotions are rapid information-processing systems that…

How To Give Feedback Without Making Other People Defensive

When the person you are giving your feedback to gets defensive it is hard to actually work on the issue at hand. This often leads to conflict instead of resolution.
While you are not responsible for other people’s reactions, the way you communicate can influence the course of the conversation.

Why You Get Defensive And How To Stop It

If you feel your abilities, competence or overall persona is being attacked, you get defensive.
You impulsively react to the perceived threat of criticism by either counter-attacking (being sarcastic, being critical in return, engaging in conflict) or fleeing (stonewalling, giving the silent treatment).

Don’t take it personally, but…

When you take things personally your fight or flight response is triggered. You might feel obliged to defend yourself or you might close up and withdraw, feeling inadequate and ashamed.

Either way, it is not a nice place to be.

The Common Misconception About Procrastination

Procrastination is an active process, a choice. You make a conscious decision to do something else instead of the unpleasant task that you know you should be doing. Even though you know it is probably a bad idea.

Do you really need to get out of your comfort zone?

The comfort zone – less about comfort, more about fear “Get out of your comfort zone” is a phrase all of us have been told at one point or another.…

How To Mind Your Own Business And Why It Is Important

In today’s world minding your own business is a rare skill. Everything around us is designed to get you into some else’s business. With Social Media deeply integrated into every…

Design Your Environment for Success – Home Office Edition

There are numerous factors that determine how likely you are to succeed in achieving your goals. Motivation, self-discipline, consistency being top of mind. One factor that is often overlooked is…

Why Having A Routine Is Important & How To Easily Create One

What is a routine? A routine is a set of unvarying, regularly repeated actions. It usually consists of habits – a series of unconscious actions, convenient and predictable. Creating a…

Learning To Respond Rather Than React

Why do we react? When there is an event that is perceived as threatening something called the fight or flight response kicks in. The fight or flight mode was developed…

Creating To-do lists that actually work in 7 simple steps

What is a to-do list A to-do list is the cornerstone of productivity. You cannot expect to be productive without properly organizing your workload. Simply put, a to-do list is…

Developing self-discipline – take control of your life

Understanding self-discipline Self-discipline is essentially the ability to control your actions and behavior, irrespective of your emotional condition. It is being able to delay gratification in order to focus on…

Multitasking or multiple distractions – the productivity myth

It is a popular opinion that multitasking is the king of productivity. When you try to envision a highly productive person he usually does multiple things at once. Or so…

3 Simple Time Management Techniques

What is time management and why do you need to get better at it? We all have 24 hours in a day at our disposal. Then why do some people…

Productivity For Beginners – Two Simple Steps

Ever found yourself with so much going on in your head, so many things that you need to take care of, that you just… freeze? You’re trying to get some…

Messy home, messy mind – how taking care of your household improves mental health

We all know that bad mental health affects how we take care of our home and body. Stress, anxiety, depression – they all have this in common. They make it…

The new new beginning

Here I go again. Like a smoker who’s attempting to quit for a hundredth time. A new beginning. A new attempt to create the me I’d be proud of. Again.…

The easiest way to start a good habit

To start a habit stick it to a habit you already have What is a habit? A habit is an automated action. An action you do not have to think…

The First Time He Hit Her

The first time he yelled at her she was shocked. Ann knew him as a kind and loving man. He was always very gentle with her. Yes, Ann had seen…

The Life I Never Lived

The hurt. The pain. The darkness. It drags you to its depths, to the never ending abyss. Drowning in sorrow. In broken dreams. In the life that never was. When…

Being your own best friend and how it helps you to become the best version of you

Our choices define us. Every choice you make shapes you, creates you as the person you are. But it also works the other way round – the choices you make…

Self-Motivation Through Daily Habits

What if I tell you you’re not lazy. You just lack motivation. Yes, you procrastinate even the smallest tasks, you slack at work, school and at home. You barely get…

Creating yourself – the pep talk that started my self improvement journey

You don’t find yourself. You will not find yourself on a trip or in a group of people. You will not find yourself in a new job or in a…

The man

She was heading home. The afternoon sun was shining bright. She could feel its warmth on her bare hands. Summer was just around the corner. She was in her own…

Stick with it

Three days in I have nothing to write about. OK that’s not true. I have unstructured thoughts. I also have a lot going on in my day today and my…

The Easy Start

As I am embarking on this jourey I started searching for tips and best practises on writing. It seems a lot of people have trouble starting to write. I don’t.…

Introducing Myself

How should I start? I want to write. It has been in my mind for a long time. Over the years I’ve started a number of “blogs” with some or…

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